We’re always inundated with lifestyle magazines that give us the scoop on surefire ways to rev up our love motors (and how to get a tummy tuck without actually going under the knife). So this morning as I reflect on 5 years of marriage (a total of 10 if you include time served), I thought I’d share my version of the Top 15 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Revved.
So in no particular order…here goes it…
15. Be Patient and Stop Complaining
Even when he totally doesn’t do what you tell him to do, when you want him to do it, and not in the way you want it done. One day he’ll totally surprise you.
14. Be Nice
Sometimes you’ve just gotta grit your teeth and whip out the ol’ smile and nod routine when he’s not so likable.
13. Don’t be envious
Even if he does bank more “me-time.”
12. Don’t Boast
Especially during those “I told ya so moments.”
11. Don’t be Proud
Say I’m sorry if you’re wrong and sometimes (gasp) when you’re not. It helps to diffuse a heated situation…especially during those “I told ya so moments.”
10. Don’t be Rude
Yelling, cursing and farting will get you nowhere!
9. Don’t be Selfish and Self-Absorbed
Because if you’re hoarding all of the blessings, you leave nothing for him to give you.
8. Don’t get Angry (so easily)
Flash flood anger leads to a flash flood of ways to get even. It’s a total wipe out!
7. Don’t Keep Score
Don’t mention previous mistakes…especially during those dang-blasted “I told ya so moments.”
6. Don’t be so Mean and Evil (its more work in the end)
It only ends up maiming the one you love, and then you’ll have to nurse him back to health.
5. Tell the Truth
It’s just too much work to speak and live a lie. Free yourself!
4. Protect him
After a hard day…ask him about it, remind him that he’s still got you, and then totally feel him up! He’ll be ready to take on the world again tomorrow!
3. Trust Him
Share your opinion- but let him make the final decision. He’ll totally make you proud!
2. Keep Hope Alive
Because every relationship should be fueled with positive expectation. Your marriage life shouldn’t be any different.
1. Keep going
Even when sometimes you think it can’ t get harder… and it totally does…and the school debt compounds…and you keep trying…and then you get a dog, 2 mortgages, and have 2 kids… and now you really want to give up because you’re just too tired to try. Try again!
Any of the above sound familiar? They totally should. I coined them from a real work of art. And while I’ve yet to master all of the above, here’s to another day of trying.
How do you keep your marriage revved?
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