I met some wonderful Momma Bears today and I had a fabulous time getting to know them over arts and crafts. We spent the afternoon scrap booking and I couldn’t have been more pleased. I’m a crafts junkie, and when paired with interesting conversation and laughs, you’ve got a recipe for good times. But even amongst the fun there was “a something” lurking just underneath the surface.
Today’s “something” evolved from an off handed comment from a fellow Momma Bear. As she gazed lovingly at the pictures in her scrapbook she said, “now why would a man like this want to leave that baby’s Momma?”
She and her husband of 13 years were beginning the proceedings for a divorce. They had 2 lovely kids, a beautiful home and from what I could tell, they didn’t seem to want for too much. I asked her if they’d considered counseling and she said that he didn’t want to pursue it and that he’d divorced her mentally long before the divorce proceedings had begun.
Well, what would YOU say to that?
I certainly didn’t know. I tried not to linger on the subject too long, after all, she’d only just met me.
So fast-forward to tonight, and as I snuggled into bed next to my husband (who is sleeping quite soundly) my wheels began to turn and I just started to pray for him. I prayed for his continued strength, confidence, wisdom, discernment, generosity and compassion as a man of God, Husband and Father AND I prayed for my continued strength, confidence, wisdom, discernment, generosity and compassion as a woman of God, Wife and Mother.
I don’t know how one falls so out of love after so many years. I don’t know how one falls so out of love after only 72 days (see Kardashian wedding) but my fear of “that something” wreaking havoc in my family brings me to my knees. Fewer and fewer things in this world remain sacred, and marriage is the most violated of the bunch. Still, I hold the belief that, one couple at a time, we will begin to demonstrate what it means to have a sacred marriage.
I’m also praying for that incredible woman that I met today. I pray that she’ll find the courage and strength to keep praying and fighting for her marriage. And that her husband will soon say, “I don’t know why any man would leave that baby’s Momma, that’s why I’m staying!”
Do you believe in happy endings?